Some Serious thinking.

kei · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 9:45 pm Post subject: Some Serious thinking.

I've been doing some serious thinking lately about myself about where I stand as a person in life. About a lot of things, I don't know if I ever told any of you this. But ever since I was 15 I always wanted to just settle down. I wanted to find that one person that would be my wife, and get married. I mean yeah sure dating has it's reasons, it's good to discover your options in order to find that person right? But I've just always wanted it to be sooner than later, you know. I still want that now cause I was thinking about it all through the last 2 weeks. But I never wanted it more than I do now for some reason. I mean yeah I go on dates and have fun and all. But also to me when it comes to dating it's me trying to find that person. I mean I'm 22, yeah that's young and yeah some may think, Whoa that's thinking to for ahead. But hey I've been thinking about it ever since I was 15, but lately I've just been yarning for it more and more. So I've been pushing myself to get into school. Cause if I meet that specail someone I want her to be able to depend on me. I want us to be able to depend on each other. Some of my friends are like. "Wow man to soon."

And I know it's not going to happen on my schedule, some are also saying "It's reall not that great"

Well I can't really see it being all bad. I personally think it would be awesome. Even if she nags at me, i would picture myself thinking, "lol wow I married a very interesting person" so I'd think it be great.

Now I know what your thinking. WHOA THIS IS REALLY RANDOM AND OUT OF THE BLUE!!

And I can agree with you on that, but it's something I've always wanted.

I just had to bring it up cause recently like i said I've been yarning for it more and more, constantly been on my mind. Don't misunderstand or anything, I'm not letting it bother me so much that I can't function and enjoy my present life. It's just something really important and specail to me.
Something I've always wanted. So I push myself to get into school so that when I meet that specail someone that I love that I want her to be proud of
the man she married, so she could possibly love me more for it.

I just had to talk about it with you guys, and get some opinions, I trust you all to listen to me, so yeah thought i'd talk to you guys about it.

Legend · Queen of Terabithia Age: 41 Gender: Joined: 14 Oct 2005

Hey, I have to say I know exactly how you feel. I never could really date in high school because I didn't want to 'date' I wanted to search for that one person. My relationships -had- to be serious.

I've been ready, emotionally, to settle down and have kids since I was fifteen. My life just doesn't seem to be on that schedule.

It's been particularly frustrating lately, given that I've got everything set and ready to go. That is, Shino-sama and I are ready except for the fact that I have to get through school first and it's taking longer and longer for me to get to that point.

So yeah, frustrating. It's like having that happiness right there at your fingertips, and just when you get close enough to touch it, it gets pulled back away.

Still, patience is a virtue I'm going to have to learn one way or the other! So, you know, this is a good experience for me and for you as well.

We'll both make it. And, like you said, we're both still young (OMG I'll be twenty-three in June! Eee!) and there's still plenty of time for everything to fall into place where it belongs.

Daijaga · Chosen of Luck Gender: Joined: 17 Dec 2003

I was the same way. I always wanted to be married, probably since I was about that age, maybe older. Theres nothing wrong with getting married young, its just that most people cant figure out why guy like us wanna get hitched so soon. A lot of people will try to tell you otherwise.

kei · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 10:04 pm Post subject:

Yeah it is kind of difficult. I'm still in the searching process though. ^^;; I myself want daughters. I always have for some reason. Guess it comes from living in a house full of sisters. Always wanted to settle down and always wanted to have daughters. Yeah If I were to have a son, it be great too, but daughters were always my choice. But it's not like you can ask for it or anything. :/

Legend · Queen of Terabithia Age: 41 Gender: Joined: 14 Oct 2005

I'd rather have boys. They're soooo much easier, 'cause you don't have to entertain them. Just let 'em run loose. Girls you always have to do stuff -with- them. ^_-

kei · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 10:10 pm Post subject:

Terin · Huzzah! Gender: Joined: 27 Oct 2003

Wow Kei, I don't know what to say.... I... I DO! *GLEE*

No but seriously, I think we all want to find that one person. I mean, the earlier you find them the more time you get to spend with them right? Unfortunately, some of us have to get out there and look, because we don't know exactly what we want and that's what dating helps us do. I mean, when I was 15 I had no clue how women thought. Now I feel I have that knowledge (or at least a better understanding of it), which will help me in making the right choice when picking who I want to spend the rest of my life with. Back then I didn't mind if she was clingy. Now, after dating, I know that I can't have someone like that in my life, it would suffocate me. She has to be independent. Dating is a tool to understanding who you're the most compatible with. It's important to be picky, this is a life-changing decision. Don't settle for less than that, because you're worth it. Maybe she's born with it, maybe it's Maybelline. Sorry, it just seemed to fit right.
-T

Legend · Queen of Terabithia Age: 41 Gender: Joined: 14 Oct 2005

Technically Shino-sama and I are going to do one of each-- we're going to have one biological and adopt the opposite gender b/c we're both fond of adoption in general and besides, then you're guaranteed what you want. ^^ But yeah, girls can be fun in the whole dressing up and playing with hair and stuff way. It's just the constantness of them needing to be entertained that can get taxing. But then, it probably depends a lot on the girls.

Terin · Huzzah! Gender: Joined: 27 Oct 2003

That's one of the coolest ideas I've heard Legend!
-T

kei · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 10:25 pm Post subject:

See just hearing that makes me want to have girls even more. ^_^ I love to spoil I think spending time with them would be a blast as well as learning about them once they reach their teen high school years those first dates me being so attached to having daughters I already know what kind of father I'd be. Can't you see it? I honestly believe it would be fun. I also look forward to seeing who they would take after me or their mother, I would hope their mother.

Regardless for me no matter what age they got it would be a blast especially their middle school and high school years. Choosing schools now days would be a pain.

I thought about it, and imagine seeing a row of girls, at the breakfast table, eating so peacefully , as appose to seeing a table of boys, cuhgging and gulping down their food so recklessly. I'd take the girls, besides I love to spoil and entertain. ^^