Tobias is startin to feel down

Tobias · *explodes* Age: 38 Gender: Joined: 17 Jan 2003

Well, i'll admit it. I think im getting in a slump. Ive never felt this far down...ever.

Why it is happening, i think that some reason may be the lack of a relationship, or something of the sorts. Ive been a very anti social person in my early years of school, and since highschool, ive been much MUCH more interactive, but i am still kind of (and i hate to say it) scared of actually even going to girls and talking to them. I guess that is what happens when u stay an introvert for most of your k-8 life.

Im saying this, so that maybe someone can help me, becuase ive helped so many, and i find that i cant seem to help myself about this. It baffles my mind, how one can help so many, yet cannot help oneself.

That is all Hmmm

Mike

Ming · DOOM! Gender: Joined: 13 Jan 2003

Ahhh but you see that's always the way it goes. As was said in Spiderman, "With great power comes great responsibility." Of course you can't help yourself...that's NOT your gift. But that's not a bad thing. Anyway...my advice is to stop worrying about it. I have found that in life, stuff just tends to happen when it's supposed to. Not to say that you shouldn't get out there and try to make conversation, etc...its just that you shouldn't let one thing (ie: lack of relationships, etc) dominate your life and make everything else suck. It's like my theory on crushes. When you have a crush on someone, you become obsessed, and close all other options. Too many times some guy has an unhealty crush on some girl that's probably bad for him, all the while some OTHER girl has a crush on the guy. It's like the hunter becomes the hunted and vice versa. I don't know if any of that helps buddy, but just remember that I'm always here to talk to you...whenever. You just have to ask...

~Andy

Ultrawolf · Mr. Roarke Gender: Joined: 04 Jul 2003

just be friends with everyone and things have a way of working themselves out. trust me, if you dont find her, she will find you. (taken from personal exp)

kittenofsences · Otaku Dame Age: 36 Gender: Joined: 30 Jul 2003

ok i missed this not haven had enough time and im sorry cuz i went threw it....
ok most likely the reason is you are affraid of what people think of you somewhere in ya
(( if not then ignore me))
Well the first thing you need to ask yourself is " Is this how i really want to look or is what i think will make everyone else look at me?"
Then once you figure that out and correct it so you are comfy with yourself then the next thing you do is be confident about it
I write and that makes me confident when im down some times with the whole do they like me thingy
Then when i realize how pathetic they are if they dont like you it amazing
Think about it You have a bunch of friends they like you but only because you look and act like them (( basically you act out what they think is kewl)) Then once you dont they ignore you and then like you again when you start back up again
Imagine if you were just yourself... confident though(( people can sence it if you arent , but dont get arrogent)) people that more than likely will be a great friend for a long time flock toward you and will help you even when you arent
(( have done testing in the past year on this))

When I moved and went to a different school I was depressed because of all sorts of stuff
I was scared but so happy with the way I looked for once that it didnt matter really. I ignored everyone unless they talked to me and not about rediculous things. On the first day which was i dunno 3 years ago or so I made 2 friends that i am still friends with :: hugs her friends from that day:: YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!
Anyway if i confused you sorry i tend to babble a lot :anime:

KenseiKurisuchan · Alive and kicking Gender: Joined: 17 Mar 2003

Tobs...Let me just say, you're probably doing the right thing. All my life I've seen relationships fall apart, mostly because the wrong things happened in them involving the wrong people. That's why I never had a girlfriend. As we all know, I'm a total babe-magnet, but I never had a girlfriend until the end of eighth grade. You all know her as Katana. I couldn't be happier that I waited, and that she'll be my first everything (and hopefully, if all goes well, last). Don't worry about it!

Tobias · *explodes* Age: 38 Gender: Joined: 17 Jan 2003

alrighty...i think i got what kitten said, and i really agree with ya kensei. i realized that today in school. I kind of feel better that im a friend to more people. I dunno, it seems to give me more elbow room to do what i want. I dunno if anyone understands that completely abstract remark Very Happy

, but i feel good right now

THX GUYS!!

That is all Hmmm

PS: Mods can shut this thread down if they want now....i think im better Smile