Y is it so hard to find a nice man in this town!!! - Men suck!!!!!!!

[SluggerGirl]

Okay, why is it so hard to find a decent man in this town and him not breaking a girls heart. I have been hurt way way way too much in the past 2 years that it is just getting so unbearable! I mean, every guy that I have been out with in the past few months, just don't like me. One even said that I am "not the size he thought I was going to be." So, he basically stated that I am too overweight for him. Well, I'm not that overweight, probably like 20 pounds overweight but still. Is it so hard to ask that men treat all women the same and not like they are some kind of supermodel or something. Not everyone has the best body in the world. I am a cute girl! Is there something terribly wrong with me! I mean, this is just making me more and more depressed.:sadwavey: The more I hear men say stuff like that to me, breaks my heart and it makes me thing there's something wrong with me.

I mean, damn! Why can't men be civilized and not so picky about who they go out with. Everybody deserves a fair chance, and why not get to know somebody for who they are and not for what they look like.

And why is it so hard for some women to find men, when it could take a few seconds for some women to get a date.....is it because of how they look? Some of you men out there, tell me.....truthfully....is it how they look that first draws you to somebody? I mean, why hurt other peoples feelings so you can get the love that you want?

And if there is a decent guy out there that doesn't do that kind of stuff.....I want some proof. Because I highly doubt it. And I'm sorry if this offends anybody, but, I have been so depressed for months now over this....and other things. Because my life long best friend killed herself back in January of 2001. Her sister killed herself one month after her. My other best friend, Leslie, has graduated Auburn University this past May and got a job with IBM in New York. And I have lost 2 other friends. I have no one else to gripe to, that's why i am using this,....and I'm sorry chibi's.....but, that is something that I had to get off my chest.

And if anybody knows any decent men in the Atlanta area, I want some proof to know that there are some out there. I'm tired of people reminding me that I am a little overweight. I mean, show some manners and courtesy.

Treat others the way you want to be treated. Not so hard to ask?

[Sciler]

ok, this may sound completely retarded, but have you checked online places as well, such as message boards adnw hatnot. I met my guy on a message board I truely didnt believe that tehre was anyone for me in GA...so i idnt exactly try. Anytime I was out of town, I could always find siomeone to flirt with or something, but in GA, no way jose. But thats ok, I met my guy on a message board and now Im in FL lol. Ever considered moving?

honestly, i really hate to say this, and please no GA guys on this board take offense, but GA breeds assholes. And the good ones who ARE there, are either too damn young for us, or already taken....OF COURSE >_<

~hugs to Ally~ good luck with it whatever way you go at it. Another thing to check into is www.lavalife.com. Yeah yeah I know most people laugh at dating sites, but its not just a dating site. there are 3 sections you can sign up for. Friendship, Relationship, and Sex. Its all free for the most part, only costs if you wanan to instant messages and yadda yadda. But if nothing else, sign up for the friendship one, and just try to meet people in the area. I did that and I met some pretty cool people, and none of us was exactly looking for a relationship, just someone new to talk to, get to know, and hang out with. Im not one to really go to bars or clubs to meet people, too many people around makes it intimidating, so the online way was perfect for me But its an idea if you wanna try something new and different

[Ming]

Don't fret SluggerGirl! There are plenty of decent men out there, and I can attest to it because I am one, and so are most of my best friends. I've been with my girlfriend now for over a year, and I'm madly in love with her. She may not look like any of the supermodels out there, but she's just so cute and pretty that it doesn't matter. And most importantly, she's a great person, and that's why I love her as much as I do. And on the other hand, I'm not the best looking guy in the world either, but she loves me because of who I am, and because I know how to treat her right. I was always so afraid that I would never find anyone because no one seemed to ever notice me, but it seems like waiting was worth it, because it has paid off ten-fold.

The harsh truth of the matter is that it is looks that initially drag people to one another, in many cases. That's because from a distance, that's all anyone has to go by. You don't just walk around, see some random person and say, "Gee! I'm really attracted to them because they have a nice personality." If it were like this, then this whole dating thing would be so much easier.

From what you have posted so far, you seem like a pretty cool person, so don't worry...there's nothing wrong with you. Guys who tell you crap like you were mentioning aren't worth your time. If a guy can't appreciate you for who you are, then he's not worth it. These are just jerks, and you can't take what they say to heart because it'll only end up hurting you. Just remember, it's the good people, like you, who will end up winning in the end. The jerks are the ones that will have f**ked up, meaningless relationships, and go through life feeling empty and loveless. While we good people may have to wait longer and it seems like we get stepped on all the time, in the end, we'll come out on top. We will find people that truly appreciate us for more than just looks. We're the ones who will find soulmates, people who aren't only 'lovers' but 'best friends', and to me, that's the most important thing.

I hope that made you feel a little better...

~Ming

[SluggerGirl]

Actually Sciler....I did join www.lavalife.com already. That's were I met some of those people. One person actually said that I didn't look like the person in the picture, when the picture was only taken about 2 months ago. I was just kind of like.....yeah, okay, whatever.

I'm still searching. And yeah, you're right Sciler.....and no offense to any GA men here.......most of them suck.

But, however....when and if I move to London....I can probably meet someone more sophisticated than anybody that I have ever met here in GA.....that likes the same things I do.....and you gotta admit.....those British accents really turn me on. Don't ya' think?

I just love British accents. I just hope that my few friends that I have here in ATL, will come and visit me every once in a while. It's cheap and I can put you up! HEHE

I'm still gonna stick it out at lavalife. Maybe hopefully I can find someone decent, caring and nice. I know they are out there, but where are they when you need them! LOL

And before to those of you who have read this....I wasn't intentionally bashing all men.....just the ones who are not decent, caring, and nice. I know that there are some out there, somewhere....I was just getting frustrated with the guys I have gone out with lately. And I'm sorry, I had to let loose....get it all off my chest and say something.

I know things will turn around for me,....hopefully within the next decade.

[Kid Icarus]

Just have to keep looking and not give up.

It's the only thing I can say now.

[Lanfear57]

guys are jack@$$es.
and im like 50 lbs overweight so dont feel bad
and i am intentionally bashing all men so if youve gotta problem then come talk to me maybe youll convince me that humans are actually worth it

[Mika]

I'm so sorry! I feel the same way! I am I guess you would say overweight so I get treated differently by guys! It totally sucks! I don't really know you but I hope you can find someone soon that will appriciate how great you are! good luck!

[Lanfear57]

i dont look overweight. i look 150 or so. but weighing in at 215 in this corner issss...
LANFEAR!!!
i vill crvush you... heheheheh

[Kid Icarus]

[SluggerGirl]

yeah, I"m sure I'll find somebody soon. It's not like I'm desperate to find somebody....it's just the fact that all of them act like f***ers. Some of them never called me back, and it's been like 2 months....it's like....at least call and say, I don't think it's going to work between us instead of ignoring me. Because when I called them.....they were all like...umm...yeah...I think I am busy.

And like I said...I'm not desperate to find somebody...because I might be moving to London....but it would be just totally awesome, if I meet somebody over here...and he wants to move with me.....I'm totally for it!!!

But, however.....British accents really do get me. I love british accents.

Who here likes british accents??