I need help - please read and reply

Akira · Ambers biotch Age: 35 Gender: Joined: 27 Oct 2002

dude, heres what i think ya should do....

first: you have to let the girl know that you have extreme feelings for her. not obsession, but feelings.

second: dont crowd her, give her, her space.

third: most girls like poetry...take a look into shakespear.

and last: dont be all goody goody for her...play hard to get sometimes...

anyways dont take my advice if you dont want to...it doesnt matter to me really. im just glad i gave it a try to help ya out dude...

good luck,

-Akira

Tobias · *explodes* Age: 38 Gender: Joined: 17 Jan 2003

well, u can not take my advise if u want, cause ive never even asked a girl out in my life, and ive never even had a girlfriend at that. But here goes my futile attempts anyways:

if she has a boyfriend, and he is a decent guy, then good for her. If you want her to know that you did have feelings for her, let her know that, and just be a good sport about it. I know it sounds like giving up, but because you are there for her, and supporting her, then in the case that she breaks up with this boyfriend, then you will be next on her list of really nice guys. And if she is dating a real POS guy, then really show her that you can be a nice guy.

BEWARE though, because for some reason, girls have this thing for breaking up with (Pardon my french) asshole guys, and they use u as a shoulder to cry on, and then they for some strange and diabolic reason, go back to the (once again, the french) asshole that she was dating before. U just gotta show her that you are a real nice guy...cause deep down, they do like the nice guys.

that is all Hmmm

Ming · DOOM! Gender: Joined: 13 Jan 2003

First, find out who the guy is. Then, tell him there's a party at some remote location. When he shows up, you're the only one there. Finally, beat the snot outta him to show him who's boss, and take your woman!

Actually, now that I think about it, DON'T do that...it'll probably cause more harm than good. :p

But to be serious...take her aside one day (where this guy can't see you) and tell her how you feel. Maybe the guy is a nice guy, but at least you know that she knows how you feel, and that you tried. Even if she doesn't necessarily want to go out with you, you could still be good friends, and a good friend is ALWAYS a good thing. When I first met my girlfriend, she absolutely blew my mind. She sweet, nice, cute, pretty, funny, and overall just great to be with. Our first few dates were spent more like going out with best friends than "dates", and I enjoyed every minute of it. I vowed that if she didn't want to become more serious and start up a relationship, I would still want to be friends with her because she was the kind of person that was just awesome to be with. We did end up starting a relationship which has lasted well over a year now, even today, I still say that I would have rather had her in my life as "just a friend" than not have her in my life at all. I just got lucky I guess.

And that's my advice...

~Ming

nor am i · Senior Otaku Gender: Joined: 20 Mar 2003

Thanks for the advice guys but I asked her and, since we've known each other since 6th grade, she said I was like a brother to her...That's just weird...i mean WTF?

Oh well.