Love...

[Ming]

Damn Media...this is all its fault.

[Tobias]

*punches Media*

*media punches back...and VERY hard*

OUCH!!!!

That is all

[Selrahc the Evil]

"Love isn't pointless only the words are."
Lan told my this once and to this very day I still know that it's true.

The hardest thing about love is when you know that you have to let somebody go because you want them to be happy more than anything else.

[Lanfear57]

sometimes love is pointless, though...
particularly when you have just lost it.
then you dont give a shit about points, unless theyre sharp and shiny and aimed at where you want them, yourself...

[Sperrit]

Okay. I guess its time that this old dog threw in his two cents because, well, I've thought too much about this already, and maybe someone else will get something out of the ideas that have led me in circles for all these years.
First, foremost, without question, without doubt, forever and always love is complicated. I love a simple one-line trendy song lyric quote as much as the next man, but no simple summation can ever truly encompass all the potential that exists as love.
Second, what love is, its being, its essence, is easy to see, but hard to know. My music teacher once asked me what music was in its most basic forms. I thought about it for days but his answer blew me away: sound and silence. In the same way, love, an extremely complex and intricate entity, finds its beginnings in the most simple of things. Love is a bond between two people. That's it. Saying nothing of the nature of that bond, how it exists and why, love is still just a bond between two people. I think that this is important to remember, as people have a curious way of viewing love, changing how they see it; elevating it, being confused by it, betrayed by it. However, none of these experiences change what love is. We must always remember so that we may never be decieved by our own experiences.
Of course, after that, love becomes extremely complicated. Most of it centers around desire, and I'm not talking lust. I'm talking about desire, the experience of wanting something, needing something. Indeed, as social animals we must have love to survive. There have been several accounts of children that have grown up without any loving contact, you can find them in Psych text books. Invariably, all die at an early age, simply from a lack of the will to live. Our very evolution centers around the fact that we are social creatures. We are dependant upon having love in our lives from some source, and we do best when we feel most loved, when we feel that we deeply connect to people in an emotional way. This is why is important, and why, undeniably, we recieve the most hurt in our lives from it.
One of my friends once called love Gravity, and he certainly had an interesting point. While completely intangible, love is almost like an energy source. When we are recieving energy from it we are happy, productive and energized. When we aren't, we're sad, lethargic and drained. Of course, we can recieve love in a number of different ways from a number of different sources, so its never quite so off-and-on, but those are the extremes. When we give love to others we are, in a sense, giving them a piece of us, giving them our energy. The acceptance and return of this energy causes a feed-back effect, making both parties happy and energized. However, when this gift is refused it causes pain, because the refusal is of a deep, personal nature. This said, it is dangerous to fall in love. However, its also dangerous to get out of bed in the morning... or to stay in the bed. Basically, danger is a part of life, as is pain. That's just the way the things are. That isn't to under-emphasize the pain of rejected love. There is no larger pain. But pain is no reason to run from love, just as its no reason to run from life. If you run from life and love because of a pain you might feel then you're also running from every possible joy and happiness that you might have as well. That's the irony of life. Pain and joy come together, in a joint package. You can't seperate the two. In order to experience joy it comes at the expense of pain, but that's no reason to not enjoy the wonderful things of life. From where I'm sitting its those costs that make the happiness that much more worth-while, that much more valuable. Would we really cherish those things that made us most happy if we didn't have to work for them, sacrifice for them?
I know love can be hard and cruel. I've had my heart broken a few times. But if it were up to me I'd do it all over again, exactly the same way. I have wonderful memories of being with people I love, even though they've hurt me so badly. Pain comes, but pain goes as well. The betrayal of another is a terrible thing, but it cannot be used to justify giving up on love or life. You just have to get up, dust yourself off and go on, knowing that there are others out there who are looking, like you, for someone to create a bond with.

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Sperrit, the Not Quite Back

[Tenshiai]

Love must be reciproque, love must be understanding and mutual sacrificing, acceptation of the others and we should worry more for the other then ourself but not forget ourself in the proceed.

We don't have to change our way to be for the others or our way to think. Love is a balance we don't have learn to do. It's hard thing to really love because love is not just one way to do.

Some love aren't enought. You're lover is not suppose to be your's hero. He's suppose to be you're egual. You must appreciate your's difference and take advantage of it. Do not wish that youre lover be thinking like you. Even if he's not, He can be able to understand you.

Love, is not what we learn in Tv or romance movie. Love is not like the cute story we know. We don't know how to love and where to learn it.

Love is not passion. He can be born of it, or passion came of love but it's two thing really different, yet, complementary.

That's my way to see thing.