Pulling out my pig tails

Keslyn · Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 8:42 pm Post subject: Pulling out my pig tails

Okay... I'm not sure where this goes, but this seemed to be the best place for it, so here it is.

I could use some advice from anyone willing to read a vent. My familly is dragging me up to Michigan for Christmas this year, which isn't what I had planned, but it's not the end of the world either. Well, come to have it my dad won't be coming back to GA with my mother, sister and I. He'll be staying up at the plant in frasier to train for getting a good promotion. Yay for him right? Well, not so yay for me. If everything comes to fruition My familly will be moving to MI within the year. :scream: Now I have had a wonderful offer from my best friends family to let me live with them if I don't want to leave but then there is the problem of telling my family that if they move I don't want to live with them. I just found all of this out in the last two weeks, and it was all just landed on me at the same time. So now in the span on two weeks I have the delimma of apeasing my family or following my own path, on top of numerous other thngs that have been building up for a little while. I love my family, but I'm not ready to leave yet. almost everything I love is here and my life is starting to come into my own.

Other bad things of the last few days:

Someone hacked my yahoo account
I promised I'd do a Christmas concert that I can't do now.

Therin · Gloompf. Iggle! Gender: Joined: 24 Sep 2002

Well, first things first, within the year means, what, within the next three weeks or within the next twelve months?

Blackmage · Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2005 3:58 am Post subject:

You need to do what makes YOU happy, eventually theres a point where you leave your parents to become indepndant. I've moved out of my parents house twice, well three times if you count trying to get into the military. Sometimes things workout sometimes they don't. If I were you I'd break it to them slowly that you want to stay here.

I already know when my parents move from GA I'm not going with, and they know that as well.

KiSin · Reality's Exiled Gender: Joined: 12 Oct 2004

I agree with Blackmage. You need to do what makes you happy. If you're parents love you they will understand.

Daijaga · Chosen of Luck Gender: Joined: 17 Dec 2003

Yeah, your at the age where your a full on human being at this point, even if the law wont label you as an 'adult'. If you believe in where your at, you might want to talk to your family about it. They're movie a part of their life up there, but they be moving you from where youve spent your entire life, am I right? Long time friends, places with fond memories?

You should really sit down and discuss with yrou parents, very calmly but firmly, that you have strong ties here and want to stay here for a while. Be direct and strong, give them flexibility too - say that youd like to try it for 6 monthes to see how it would work out. That shouldnt be too unfair being as your father will be living away from your family for a length of time, so this isnt any different. Make sure they know you love them, but that your growing up and have your own wants in life that dont involve plants in Michigan, but your future here.

Good Luck, whatever comes of it Keslyn - you have plenty of friends here.

Sketch · Otaku Knight Gender: Joined: 30 Sep 2004

*huggles* I agree with Dai suggest a trial period. I know how intimidateing it can be talking bout something like this with family too. Dont heistate to call or contact me, if you need me. ^^ even if it is just to listen. or sit up watching movies, eating yummy ice cream and venting for all the world. You know where I am dearheart ^-^+2

reaper · I miss you Shar Gender: Joined: 28 Dec 2002

I know far to well how someones family can screw up important plans that have been made, I feel for ya Sad

Silver Adept · Otaku Lord Age: 42 Gender: Joined: 20 May 2003

There are some of us who actually live in that godsforsaken state that you've painted a rosy picture of. *smiles*

That said, as the previous commenters have said, if you can establish that you can live independently successfully, you'll go a long way toward convincing your parents that you can hack it if they move and you stay behind. Taking a move isn't bad, necessarily, just make sure that you think the whole thing through before making a decision like this, because it's unlikely you'll be able to change your mind.