Why does drama keep finding me?

[Zzyxx]

You guys remember Bonnie?
The girl who i was dating around (unexclusivly) with?
Well i just found out some info that completly rocked my world in the bad way.

Backstory:
I'm good friends with Bonnie's best friend Jennifer.
Today i get an IM from Jen informing me that Bonnie is dating some 21 year old dude who was/is in the army. Ok, i feel a bit jealous cuz i liker her a little more than i let her know. I look back and it makes sence. She hadn't been returning my calls, and she elluded to some guy very briefly in her xanga, i put 2 and 2 togethor. I have no reason to say anything, i mean we weren't exclusive. I felt kinda bad cuz she didn't tell me about it, but everyone is allowed their secrects. Then i find out that she in not only keeping it from me, but she lied to her parents everytime she went to go see him using her best friend as an excuse (w/o consulting said best friend prior to find out if it was ok). Just so you know, had i read that right now, i wouldn't have believed it. Bonnie is one of the most honest people i know, so something like this is extreemly out of character for her. Here is where stuff gets messy.

Jennifer checks my xanga and discovers that Bonnie had flat lied to me about why she hadn't returned one of my calls. Now, one thing that ou need to understand about me: i don't do disloyalty or dishonesty. Those are two things that will get me beyond enraged faster than you can blink. Naturally, i become enradged at teh lie told to me. All the worry and jealousy fades away. I take a walk to try and blow off steam, but i keep finding out how much deeper the lie goes.

Bonnie only met this guy about 4 days ago. She drove to his house the next day to meet him for lunch. Bonnie lives by the schedule book, for her to do something that off the cuff is out of character. At this point i become worried more than angry. If she is meeting a guy she met online, after lying to her parents about where she was going, bad things could happen. I call my mom to help me blow off some steam. My mom and i are really close so we talk about pretty much everything. SHe came to the conclusion that it was dangerous and called Bonnie's mom. I know the shit hit the fan then cuz Bonnie's mom is not a woman to be trifeled with.

I called Jennifer after that to tell her what had transpired. Then was when i found out the really disturbing stuff. Apparently this guy whos is only 21 has been a POW and had bone cancer bad enough to require chemo. First of all, the only war we've been in for the past 3 years was iraq, POWS were all highly publicized and many of them were executed, so i think there is a problem in that story there. Also, from what i know, bone cancer is kinda slow. He would have had it for a while to need chemo for it, and if he had it for a while he wouldn't have gotten into the Army.

I'm extreemly worried for Bonnie, but more than that right now i feel kinda used. And i feel the responsibilty could in part fall on me. I decided we shouldn't be exclusive after all. Yet, i still feel like i was kept in the dark so i could be the back up plan. Could anybody share anything on this?

[Kudasai Hiroki]

Wow. That's really messed up.
Does Bonnie have a history of being really gullible? I'm with you about this "army guy". Iraqis tend not to release military prisoners alive. Sounds to me like he's scamming her. And she's only known him four days?

Now, I don't believe that you are in any way responsible for any of this. She's capable of making their own decisions, good or bad. I would definetly try to get in touch with her and try to talk some sence into her. Also try to find out more about this mystery man of hers. He may be one of those con artists just looking for someone to use. I'm not trying to worry you more but that's what it looks like to me.

I wish you the best of luck. If you need to vent or any help feel free to PM me.