I'm such a sucker - need some advice

[ChibiChaos]

ok, so there's this guy i like... i've known him for around a year or so. (i dunno, mebbe less..) and just a while ago he tells me he likes me back. now, here's where it gets a bit complicated.

he already has a gf, but was planning on breaking up with her anyway, due to her constant cheating and lack of futher interest on both sides, BUT.. he knows her and her family (they've been going out for a year and a half) very well, and i guess he'd feel guilty just dumpin her..

what should i do? I don't mind waiting for them to break up, but it's been two weeks.

i'm just confuzzled.

[Mika]

I'm sorry Chibi Chaos that is a big pickle your in. Personally If you really really like this guy you could wait for him to break uo with his gf,but since its been 2 weeks he might be having second thoughts. I wish I could help more. If you need anything else just PM me. I hope it works out soomthly.

[kittenofsences]

just support him but make it known that your not going to wait forever and that any help he needs then you will be there to help him.... its not horrible to break up with someone if there family knows you... you just dont get into anymore with the family

[ChibiChaos]

yeah, thanks guys for the advice, i really needed some good advice. i'm dumb enough to wait a long while, and i really really do like him, so all i can do is wait and hint at the point to him that i can't wait forever...

[reaper]

I am lost as to where the problem is.
Ok so this chick cheats on him, doesnt like him and he doesnt like her. . . . . . .sooo what the hell is the problem?

If neither cares aboutt he relationship they wont care about it ending
And 2 weeks is not a long time kids

and why hint at the fact that you wont wait, tell him that.

[ChibiChaos]

[Happo]

*Sigh* I DON'T like giving advice but this potentially can be really bad. NOT for you, but for the unlucky couple. Let me tell you a story...
Once upon a time, while I was in the military, I met a fellow soldier who was from Kentucky (I think, it was a long time ago). ANYWAY, he and his highschool sweetheart were in the same boat as the couple you're talking about. They were both from the same small town, families were close and knew each other, and they went out. Problem was they grew up and into very different people, BUT because of all the other social and familial obligations (plus not wanting to be rude) and the fact that they DIDN'T hate each other, they thought 1)first comes dating then 2)comes marriage then 3)children and happily ever after. Unfortunately, three years into the marriage and 2 beautiful children later, they ended up REALLY hating each other, unhappy and pretty darn mean to their children. They ended up getting a divorce, the families' friendships became strained and the two people were miserable until, a few years later they realized it WASN'T one or the other's fault, it's just that they were too young and didn't realize that they COULD choose their own path, rather than the path expected of them. Feelings hurt then would have been 'devastating' but far better than the H-E-C-K it turned out to become. Who knows, maybe they might have ended up just as miserable, but perhaps have had a childhood friend they could have talked to. I know this really doesn't have much to do with you, but perhaps someone else who REALLY needs to hear this WILL.

[Ultrawolf]

:moo: should help tide ya over. im sorry im too good on advice, but happo's story should help alot and the smilies here can distract you for a while *stares off into space*