I've been having girl issues

MidnightTheif · Rookie Gender: Joined: 03 Dec 2003

well, ive been slightly depressed lately because ive ben havin some girl troubles. this was this girl who i really liked...and i had been liking her for about 3 1/2 months, but i could do nothing about it because she had a boyfriend. i waited and waited until finally the day came that she broke up with her boyfriend and i was next on the list. so we started to go out and she told me things such as: she would not break up with me because she couldnt hurt me in that way (again), she thought our relationship would be a very long one, she would under NO circumstances go back to her ex, and that she loved me. I believed every word of it and pretty much had my head in the clouds for the next 2 days. on the third day i went over to her house for a few hours and we had a great time. we sat on the sofa together and watched tv and movies as we sat close to each other. when it was time for me to leave she said that she did not want me to go and wished i could just spend the night. so i went home, and thirty minutes later she called and dumped me. at first i was shocked and when i questioned her reasons, i found that she was going back to her ex, there fore lying to me and breaking multiple promises. i was very hurt after this tragic event, and having to see her today with her boyfriend didnt ease the pain. though i am feeling better about the whole thing now, i have posted this story here in hopes for some moral support.

Suna-chan · Otaku Master Age: 36 Gender: Joined: 22 May 2003

-GLOMP- seeeeeee do u feel better writing it out maybe? im so sorry that happened.... girls can be cruel... i am one of them and i kno i've done my share of mean things before... it's awful and i cant really explain why girls do it sometimes.... im sorry tho...-glomp- ^^ hey dont be too sad cause im stil ur friend! and im lookin forward to that song on the guitar! mwahaha '_^ -hugs-

Lewis Black · Lewis M.S. Black Joined: 07 Oct 2003

Pfffft. Sorry to sound like a jerk ass but welcome to the shxt stain that is dating. Although at least I commend you for not having my luck. Girls wouldn't even dream of dating me. As a matter of fact the only way the could talk with me is...more than 5 minutes. You'll find that most girls you meet are completly and absolutely fucking morons. Why? They feel that the so called "Bad Boy" is a keeper. You know what? The "Bad Boy" will end up being the little girl if smacked with a metal bat. Trust me. They're not so bad when you crack em over the head with 7 lbs of metal. They go down rather quick. Fucking punk asses thats what they are. Makes ya feel mighty good tho. My advice. Wait until your older. Like 20 or something. You'll find most girls mature and more pleasing that the annoying ass 14-19 year olds. I still can't stand em to this day. Both the girls and boys. Yes folks I do have issues. I've been used alot and my heart beaten to nothing. I'm surprised I haven't killed myself. I'm gonna stop now before I get mega pissed.

PS: Sorry about the cursing. Too many bad memories.

emmy · Senior Otaku Gender: Joined: 05 Dec 2003

awww!!!! even tho u already talked to me about this i will tell u again how sorry i am. . . . . like lissy said, at least i'm still ur friend!!!!!!! sry i didn't call u back but i had important stuff to do. like decorate binders. .. . .newayz i will call u thisafternoon. . . . .and kill dylan . . . . .slowly and painfully . . . . .

KenseiKurisuchan · Alive and kicking Gender: Joined: 17 Mar 2003

Aye, Lewis. In agreeance here.

The best thing to do (in my opinion) is just not date. Yet, at least. Wait until you're in college or so, so that you'll have had time to mature and so will the girls. I don't know how old you are now, but it's probably not old enough; especially if the girl tells you she loves you after a couple of weeks of dating.

Selrahc the Evil · true Evil's creator Joined: 18 Mar 2003

I have seen almost the same thing just happen to my friend Alex, and all I can say on the matter is....
"Nobody is woth your tears, and the one that is won't make you cry."

Other than that all I can tell you is to hang in there and to try to move on.

Tenshiai · Otaku Knight Gender: Joined: 10 Oct 2003

It's really sad. I can understand you. Some of my friend was like this girl before and some others in you're situation. A guy did it to me.

I think that this girl was confused and I believed she was trying to convince herself more then you. Beware when someone dump her/his signifiant others and are already jumping in another relationship. There is such an amount of reason possible to consider why... Often, even without knowing it, the person wouldn't be really ready and may searching to forget his/her ex in a new realtionship, to fill the lack that this lost make or because they have emotional dependence now. You may think to be able make him/her forget about but, even if you can, is not the right thing to do because he/she 'll never be able really pass over by herself. She can return with her boysfriends seeking no one better for now until she find more. That is really shocking but possible. She did it to him the first time when she believed to love him before... so, why not to someone else ?

Take you're time, for some situation only time can reveal the truth.
3 1/2 month isn't much to know a person... especially if this person is in a relationship.

Take care of you

Tobias · *explodes* Age: 38 Gender: Joined: 17 Jan 2003

Dude, all i gotta say is that you sound like a nice guy, and that someone like that girl isnt worth it. Your best bet for a girl would probably be the quiet girls who are really nice. The reason? Because they are really good. Also, i suggest not to just let a girl jump into a relationship with you. Its much better to meet a girl, and become a friend of hers. If you really like her, you will know. Trust me on that one. Also, it allows you to see what kind of person she is.

I hope ive helped in any way to cure the pain.

That is all Hmmm