How could u?

simply jose · player Joined: 06 Apr 2003

Wut makes me angry is not the fact that he slept with her. I mean obviously its wrong but like u sad it was 5 yrs ago. Wut pisses me off is the fact that he wasnt man enuff to admit it in 5 yrs and he always pretended like he was a true friend. Now I also come to find out that he is screwing me over for unemployment. It seems like since him n I dont talk anymore he turned around and told the unemployment offices that I had abandoned my job. Jokes on him cuz I put in my statement which didnt match theirs and I still got approved so he still gotta pay me ahhahahaha. But as u can see he aint no friends so he aint worth me stressing over him.

Aiman · Demon Knight Age: 43 Gender: Joined: 14 Jan 2003

Well, the only thing that I can say about this whole thing is that, I always knew he wasnt great. Everything he did seemed to have another meaning. I almost had a fight with this guy because he wasnt a friend enough to take his roommate (Jose) somewhere and I almost had to cut school off because of this. He got pissed at me and came to my house to threaten me.
(For those who do not know, I used to live in FL and Ive known Jose since I was in like 9th grade?)

So yeah, I never liked the guy. Ive been done with him for a couple of years and I really didnt care for him much, but Jose was always with him and he even traded me for him as the dynamic duo! *cries*

And Skylah... shush! You like drama! Admit it! Razz

simply jose · player Joined: 06 Apr 2003

Lol ur so dramatic, I never traded u for him. U disappeared to PR so he and i dressed as batman and robin for halloween. I cant force u to stay here, but u know u will always be the driver of the bati-civic. hahaha.

Terin · Huzzah! Gender: Joined: 27 Oct 2003

All I can say is to look at it from his perspective. I know that's hard, especially if you're in an emotional state. He probably was afraid. Afraid of what might happen to your relationship with him if he told you, and your friendship was too important for him to risk it falling apart over her. It's probably been eating away at him for years and he had to tell you but he wanted to make sure you were over her. My advice is to look to the future. Forgive. Remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Remember the old saying "Don't judge someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes." I have no doubts he looks back on it as a mistake. I hope I gave you some perspective.
-T

simply jose · player Joined: 06 Apr 2003

In all honesty I've tried looking at it from his perspective but like I said earlier; after he did it to me he also slept with another of our friends girlfriends, me being his former best friend I know more bout him than anyone else and I know that he also had pictures of another of his friends gf in loungerie, and he had letters from another of his friends gf in which she kept wanting to be together with him and have him meet her family. As u can see this has been a repetitive thing with him and when u look at the facts u cant help but acknowledge that he aint gonna change and that just like he has done it to over 4 friends he will continue to do this things. No matter how hard u try to find an excuse for wut he has done u cant fail to see that the number one reason is selfishness. Friends like tht u just need to keep far away as possible. Let God do the forgiving at this point cuz I aint mad I just think its best to let him and it go.

FawkesFyre · Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 2:11 pm Post subject:

Best thing you can do about it all is to just move on...you're likely never going to get the full and true story behind all this. People will lie about just about anything to save their own skin, and like Sciler said, ppl love to stir up drama. I've had more than my share.

shadokastur · Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 2:16 pm Post subject:

As an ex-cheater I can say it's like a sickness. It's the easy way out that we all wish existed. It's the rush of getting what you want and, ultimately, it's weakness. Jose, man, I wish I could say something that would make this all clear up and change things for you. I wish there was an easy way out of that too. But there isn't. The only real progress that can be made in this situation is by him and your ex, and that will require willingness, openess and a great deal of introspection and honesty with theirselves about themselves. To the persons i've cheated on I can not tell them enough or make them know how much I am sorry. It's not the deed in essence but the foundation of trust and understanding that all good things are built on that must be repaired. I had no idea then how important that truly was/is. The only peace YOU will ever get from this situation is forgiveness because you can't feel how the other person feels when they say they're sorry. The best thing you can do FOR YOU is to bring it up from within yourself to forgive them and I PROMISE when you are able to and you do, this part of your life will reopen to you. You will be able to look at the good times and great feelings you had with these people and they will serve as a beacon for the great times that are in your future and draw them closer and make them more enriching and fulfilling for you. Trust is key and forgiveness is its salve.

Namaste brother,
REY

Sciler · Mistress Age: 46 Gender: Joined: 15 Sep 2002

Preach on Brotha Ray! Wink

Terin · Huzzah! Gender: Joined: 27 Oct 2003

Woah, wel more pieces of the puzzle fall and this guy doesn't sound like a friend.. Yeah I'd break off the friendship and move on, but still take to heart the plenty of fish thing Wink

-T

simply jose · player Joined: 06 Apr 2003

Oh believe me, like I said that was 5 yrs ago lol, Ive had my share of sushi hahahaha. As for frogiving; I can forgive but not forget. Fool me once shame on u fool me twice shame on me u know